I am very happy to introduce our latest Self-love Ambassador, Evelyn Lim, an author, life coach, intuitive consultant and vision board counsellor from Singapore. Evelyn’s motto is “Change begins with you. Be a luminary of love and light.” Her personal creed stems from the importance of aligning with the true self in order to consciously manifest for abundance. It arose from her personal journey into greater self-love. Evelyn Lim is the author of “Abundance Alchemy: Journey of Gold” and co-author of “Adventures in Manifesting: Success and Spirituality” with authors such as Dr Joe Vitale and Dr Fred Alan Wolf (from The Secret). For free articles visit www.AbundanceTapestry.
It can seem trite when we hear the words ‘just love yourself’. How would you suggest that someone does this if they don’t know where to start?
Not many realize that it can be really difficult for those facing tremendous challenges with self-love in knowing where to start. It is possible to be stuck in negativity for so long that a person finds it hard to rise above the mental noise. In extreme cases, inadequate self-love can result in depression, eating disorders or addictive behavior such as taking drugs or alcoholism.
In my book Self-Love Secrets, I share about approaching self-love from the body, mind and spirit. Hence, it will be helpful to identify which level a person is facing difficulties in. So if a person is having problems with an eating disorder, then the solution is really to look into solving things at the physical level first. Alternatively if a person is already doing basic self-care but is engaged in negative self-talk, then a possible place to start is the mental level. However, as Albert Einstein once said, a problem can never be solved at the level in which it is created. Hence, to love the self fully involves looking into all three aspects of body, mind and spirit ultimately. An overall picture of what this means can help a person create a vision of unconditional self-love to work towards.
What’s the best self-love tip you have ever heard?
I don’t know if there is any one best tip that I have heard. Each one that has spoken to me has helped me at a different stage. Perhaps what I can share about is the often-quoted saying, “You must love yourself before you love another. By accepting yourself and fully being what you are, your simple presence can make others happy.”
At first, the saying did not mean much until I started becoming conscious about self-love. Eventually, I have found it to be true. From learning about loving myself more fully, miracles started happening for me. I did not have to do much with any big amount of effort. My relationships with others started improving and I began to attract more work opportunities, amazingly.
How do you bring yourself back into your heart when you are feeling down on yourself?
I usually allocate time for inner work or meditation. It means finding some space to be on my own. With doing inner work, I use a technique known as Emotional Freedom Technique or EFT. EFT helps me release my emotions from whatever issue I am feeling poorly about. (Michelle: I totally agree and use EFT regularly. It’s a wonderful easy tool to shift emotional blocks and rigid thinking. See www.bradyates.net for free EFT videos where you can tap along on a whole heap of subjects).
To help shift into more positive vibrations of joy and love, I may also paint, play with my children or watch comedies. Basically it is doing those things that I know will make me feel better. There are also a number of other ways that I help myself. It really depends on the situation that I am in. I have found that having an arsenal of ready tips, tools and techniques helpful. I share what these are in my book, Self-Love Secrets.
Thanks so much for sharing your insights Evelyn. Comedy is also one of my favourite ways to quickly shift my mood if I’m feeling down.
As December draws to a close, we’re often thinking about how we would like to do things differently in the new year. It’s the ideal time to start new behaviours and focus on healthy habits. In order to give you a bit of extra encouragement, one lucky reader has the chance to win a copy of Evelyn’s fantastic ebook Self-Love Secrets. I’m currently reading it and really enjoying it!
Tell us in less than 40 words below before 26th January – what self-love habit are you starting to nurture yourself more from this point forward? Inspire us all 
Good luck everyone and here’s to our happiest year yet!
